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6 Ways to Build Resilience through Learning
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What do the most resilient people have in common? It’s not just grit. It’s not just mental toughness. It’s not just slack (see last week’s issue). It’s an unwavering commitment to — and system for — continuous learning. Resilient people don’t just endure challenges. They extract lessons from them. They integrate new insights. They adapt. They take what happens and use it to grow stronger. They develop a learning practice that thrives on shared experiences and collective insights, turning every interaction into an opportunity for growth and making resilience a lifelong commitment rather than an isolated challenge. A Learning Practice isn’t just about consuming new information. It’s a mindset thing. A growth-oriented mindset (shout out to Carol Dweck) is what keeps us flexible in the face of change, helps us bounce back from setbacks and develop the capacity to thrive, no matter what. Sound familiar? Yep, that’s resilience. Resilience thrives in a growth mindset — the belief that abilities, intelligence & outcomes are shaped by learning and effort, not by fixed traits. When we approach life and work with this mindset, setbacks become learning experiences rather than failures. Challenges become opportunities to adapt our knowledge & expand our skill set. And uncertainty becomes something we can navigate with curiosity rather than with fear. The more we intentional we are about learning, the more adaptable and resilient we become. Last week, we talked about strengthening resilience with energy reserves, this week, we’re building resilience through an intentional practice of learning. The Secret to Fueling Lifelong Resilience: Social Learning.We don’t just learn from our own experiences, we learn from each other. Every conversation. Every collaboration. Every time someone shares how they tackled a challenge or made sense of a setback, we have an opportunity to expand our own understanding. This is social learning, the process of growing through shared experiences & collective insights. And it’s a resilience multiplier. Because when learning is social:
Resilient people don’t just commit to lifelong learning; they embed learning into their daily lives. They develop a Learning Practice: a system for making learning a habit, where every challenge, mistake & interaction becomes fuel for growth. The best part? You don’t have to do this alone. Here’s how to build a Learning Practice, for yourself and your team, to make continuous learning and resilience a way of life. Three Ways to Build a Personal Learning Practice 1. Reframe setbacks as data. Why it works: When you treat mistakes and challenges as neutral information instead of personal failures, you reduce emotional resistance & open yourself to learning. Over time, this rewires your brain to see setbacks as stepping stones, not roadblocks. What to do: Next time something doesn’t go as planned, pause. Instead of asking Why did this happen to me? shift to What can I learn from this? Pro tip: Keep a “Lessons Learned” note on your phone to jot down key takeaways after difficult experiences. 2. Make reflection a habit. Why it works: Learning doesn’t happen in the moment, it happens when we process. Without reflection, insights remain scattered and unused. A structured habit of reflection helps connect the dots, reinforcing lessons and turning them into actionable growth. What to do: Choose a reflection practice that fits your style. Try daily voice notes, a weekly journal entry or a simple end-of-day prompt: What’s one thing I learned today? If you struggle to do this alone, make it social by swapping challenges with a friend or colleague. 3. Learn with others. Why it works: Social learning accelerates growth. When we learn in isolation, we rely only on our wn perspective. But when we ask questions observe others and engage in conversations, we gain access to insights that we wouldn’t have uncovered alone. What to do: Join or create spaces where learning happens naturally: mastermind groups, discussion circles, coffee chats. Get in the habit of asking, people to share something interesting that they’ve learned recently and listen with curiosity. Three Ways to Build a Learning Practice in Your Team 1. Normalize talking about mistakes. Why it works: When mistakes are seen as something to hide, teams lose valuable learning opportunities. But when mistakes are treated as data, they become a source of collective growth. Psychological safety, where people feel comfortable sharing failures without fear, builds stronger, more resilient teams. What to do: As a leader, go first. Share a recent mistake and what you learned from it. Encourage post-mortems after projects, asking What worked? What didn’t work? What can we try next time? Frame mistakes as learning experiments, not performance failures. 2. Bake learning into your workflows. Why it works: If learning isn’t intentional, it gets deprioritized. Teams that embed reflection and knowledge-sharing into their workflows adapt faster and perform better. What to do: Integrate structured learning moments: quick “aha moment” shares at the start of meetings, a Slack channel for lessons learned or weekly team debriefs. If your team moves fast, keep it simple: What’s one thing we learned this week? 3. Leverage the power of social learning. Why it works: Teams grow stronger when they learn together. Peer-to-peer knowledge sharing strengthens adaptability. spreads expertise & builds trust. What to do: Create space for learning to happen organically. Encourage peer coaching, set up mentorship pairings or host regular “team huddles” where people share insights from their roles. Learning shouldn’t just come from the top down. To be truly social and most impactful, it should flow in every direction. Resilience is a Learning Practice. The most resilient people & teams don’t just bounce back. They make sense of what happened. They integrate that new knowledge, they evolve their understanding, adapt their approach and grow with every misstep. Resilience isn’t built in a single moment, it’s shaped by small, intentional adjustments over time. Every reflection, every shared insight, every habit of learning compounds, strengthening your ability to adapt and thrive. So, where in your life or business could you lean into learning right now? Hit reply and let me know — I’d love to hear. And if you have a friend who could use actionable strategies like these, feel free to forward this email or send them this link. xx, Nicole Want to go deeper?The book that popularized the growth mindset. If you missed the deep dive on building energy reserves for resilience, catch up here. |
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